Encourage Communication…With Coupons

Starting a conversation with a young person isn’t always easy. Whether he’s* your child, grandchild, student, athlete, or friend, it often can be hard to get a child or teen to express what he thinks, feels, and experiences. This is especially true for sensitive subjects like alcohol or drug use, dating, peer pressure, and similar topics. Furthermore, between your child’s busy school and social schedule and your own hectic life, it often can be difficult to make time for important discussions with your child.

One way to overcome these communication hurdles is by using “coupons.” Coupons are “conversation starters”—tools to let your child know you are thinking about her, to help you begin a dialog with her, and to build her trust and communication skills. Coupons, which can be printed from the Family Guide site, can be tucked in your child’s book or backpack, or given to your child directly, to invite him to do a special activity together or to just sit down and talk.

Finding a coupon may not only brighten your child’s day, but can reassure her that you are willing to talk and support her.

Coupons can be used:

• To schedule some one-on-one, uninterrupted time with your child.
• To invite your child on an outing of his or her choosing: a concert, movie, or a trip to a favorite restaurant.
• To celebrate a special event or achievement with your child, such as a good report card, school graduation, or other accomplishment.
• To encourage your child to talk to you if you suspect she’s having a tough time.
• As a “random act of kindness” to let your child know you are thinking about him.

You can attach a little gift or token to the coupon—such as a pack of gum, a keychain, or a magazine clipping—that your child may like. Doing so shows your child that you are in touch with her likes and that you support her interests.

Using coupons to start conversations with your child at an early age can help you develop the habit of talking regularly with your child. It can also create groundwork for more serious discussions as your child grows—about tough subjects like substance use, gangs, peer pressure, and mental health issues. Regular use of coupons can help your child feel more at ease talking to you about anything that interests or affects her. It may also become easier for her to come to you when she’s facing a tough problem.

Perhaps most important, coupons also can remind you that, no matter how busy your life gets, you should always make time to listen and take time to talk to your child. So check out these creative coupons!

In My Own Words: how coupons helped me through a tough time

* We refer to a child as "him" in some places and "her" in others. We do this for easier reading. All information applies to both boys and girls unless otherwise specified.